Posted by Christina Jedra February 12, 2013 09:20 AM
If she had known her daughter was at risk, Sharon Love said she would have removed her from school. She would have done anything to keep former University of Virginia student Yeardley Love safe from the ex-boyfriend who barged into her room and beat her to death.
In an effort to prevent violence in other young relationships, Sharon Love and Yeardley’s cousin, Sharon Robinson, leaders of the One Love Foundation, spoke to Melrose High School students last Thursday.
George W. Huguely was sentenced to 23 years in prison after he was convicted of second-degree murder. Prosecutors charged he entered Love’s bedroom on May 3, 2010, in a drunken rage. Both Huguely, 25, and Love, 22, were lacrosse players at UVA.
“I knew nothing [about relationship violence] because no one ever speaks about it,” Love told the audience in Melrose. “I hope by telling Yeardley’s story, the secrecy will end.”
Initiated by the Melrose Alliance Against Violence and funded by a federal grant, the presentation was part of an initiative launched to teach students about abusive relationships. The Melrose Student Action Board is helping provide classmates with evidence-based lessons about relationship violence.
Aram Boghosian photos/for The Boston Globe“What we’re trying to do is create a change in the culture in Melrose,” said Holly Staples, a Melrose High teacher who advises the student board. “So by starting off with having this assembly and having them hear firsthand what to look for, what happens, what can happen . . . it’s a start.”
During two assemblies, Love and Robinson took turns talking about Yeardley: her personality, her passion for school and lacrosse, and the circumstances that led to her unexpected death just weeks before she would graduate. Students were silent as the women shared their thoughts and presented a video clip and public service announcement promoting the app they helped develop.
The app, available on iPhones and Android devices, is a diagnostic tool that indicates the level of risk in a relationship based on 20 questions that a domestic violence counselor might ask.
“My goal is to protect each and every one of you,” Sharon Love told the students.
During the assemblies, a video was projected that showed Melrose students and faculty holding up signs, giving their personal ideas on what “Love is” and what “Love isn’t.” Afterward, students and Student Action Board members Alyssa Abbot and Lilah Drafts-Johnson (right) sang Sugarland’s “Stand Up,” which earned a mid-song standing ovation in the second assembly.
Abbot said that she was already aware of the dangers, but the personal stories hit home.
“The fact [is] that Yeardley was someone so relatable, she could’ve been one of my good friends,” said Abbot, 17. “This was a great opportunity for the kids to see what can happen.”
Another board member, Zeke Vainer, 18, stressed the importance of teaching students to recognize abuse.
“[Yeardley] didn’t know those signs,” he said. “This grant is important to us. It’s spreading [awareness] to the community.”
After the assemblies, Love said that the One Love Foundation’s purpose has evolved over time and that the family is working on creating an educational video that could be distributed to high schools nationwide.
“Initially we wanted to honor Yeardley’s memory in a positive way,” she said. “Along with that, we wanted to try and stop this from ever happening to anyone else. We don’t want any other family to go through what we’ve gone through.”
Love said that she hopes she made an impact on the Melrose student audience.
“I hope that we, at the very least, created an awareness of domestic violence, relationship violence, and at the very most, that they will stand up and be a spokesperson for us.”
Christina Jedra can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.