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Q. Hi Meredith,
Longtime lurker, first-time writer here.
I am a 30-year-old working professional whose last serious relationship ended a little over two years ago. I gave myself some time to heal from what was a very rough breakup (he was controlling, emotionally abusive, and an alcoholic), as well as learn from it, grow, get in touch with myself, and clear my head. I vowed to never date that type of person again, made myself aware of the warning signs, and have done quite well so far avoiding this sort of situation.