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How not to write an online dating message

Posted by Karyn Polewaczyk  January 16, 2014 08:15 AM

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What can I say? It’s a sharing-is-caring kind of week.

Today’s post comes compliments of The Atlantic, which, ironically, dovetails off of the story I shared yesterday about the guy who tried (and failed) to pose as a woman to prove how easy the ladies have it when it comes to online dating. Ahem.

This time, the writer is a woman, posing as a woman (BuzzFeed’s Katie Heaney, if you’re curious)—who, like our Reddit friend, is/was also subject to an onslaught of tasteless interactions via OkCupid. In her piece, she recounts the six types of no-good, very-bad messages you’ll receive in “romantic jail", ranging from “The Neg,” or a reverse compliment meant to make the recipient question her worth, to “The Mediocre,” which, I guess, is self-explanatory, but also goes to show, yet again, how ‘nice’ really doesn’t cut it, aside from serving as a tepid adjective.

FYI: the essay is not quite long-form, but is definitely not a quick browse. And it's hilarious. If you’re pressed for time, I suggest bookmarking it and perusing over lunch. Or, you know, when your boss isn’t apt to pass by your desk to check on a status report. Or whenever you’d like.

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Karyn Polewaczyk lives and writes in Boston, and believes that heading out into that good night, like any adventure, begins with the first step. Let's Go Out is a conversation about dating and nightlife in our notoriously chilly city, with first-hand tips from the trenches. Karyn's writing, which focuses largely on women's lifestyle topics, has appeared in the Weekly Dig, Jezebel, xoJane, Northshore Magazine and, among others. Follow her on Twitter at @KarynPolewaczyk.

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