Susan Massad, 51, associate professor
When are you happiest? When swimming outdoors
What makes her a catch? She loves politics, book signings, concerts, foreign films. She’s financially stable, a good cook.
Kamran Nafissi, 60, interior work-space designer
Stranded on an island, he’d want: Music, my memories, and hope
First thing people notice in his home: Old and beautiful Persian artifacts
7 p.m. Maxwells 148, Natick
Establishing a dialogue
Kamran: I was very calm and looking forward to the date.
Susan: I was relaxed and open-minded.
Kamran: I got there ahead of her and sat at the table. The host guided her to the table.
Susan: The host led me to the table where Kamran was already seated. He was pleasant-looking. Honestly, not really my type, but that is OK. I always give people a chance.
Kamran: I was not attracted to her at all. She did not have any of the physical features which I find attractive in a woman.
Searching for unity
Susan: He seemed friendly and calm.
Kamran: She seemed a little nervous at the beginning and calmed down as time went on.
Susan: The service was really attentive, the food was tasty. I would not go to this place on my own, though. Very pricey, high emphasis on presentation; not my style. Too formal.
Kamran: I have been to Maxwells many times, and I like the food very much.
Susan: He told me a lot about Iran, his native homeland. He has two sons with whom he has a great relationship. We talked about international films and places we’ve traveled. He’s a world traveler.
Kamran: We talked about Mideast politics, Lebanon, and her teaching career.
Susan: We discussed our backgrounds, ethnicity, kids, jobs, foreign films at the Boston Museum of Fine Arts.
Kamran: We share a love for our family, our tradition, art, film, and fine dining.
Susan: We share some of the same opinions about international events and like the same type of films.
Kamran: I was very comfortable with her and felt disappointed that I did not have any chemistry with her.
Susan: The conversation was intellectually stimulating, but there was not much of a spark.
Kamran: As soon as I saw her, I wanted to leave.
Susan: It was comfortable enough – kind of like talking to a friend. I don’t find these situtations awkward.
Cutting off talks
Kamran: We said goodbye. We shook hands.
Susan: [He said,] “Very nice meeting you.”
A second date?
Kamran: The minute I saw her, I knew this was going nowhere.
Susan: He’s a very nice man, but I did not sense that we’d be a great fit. I did not get the feeling he was all that interested in me either.
— Compiled by Melissa Schorr.
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