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The things you should never say to someone trying to lose weight

Posted by Elizabeth Comeau  August 23, 2012 08:27 AM

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The difference between my pants size when I started this blog to the difference now.

What I am about to share with you is culled from my personal weight-loss and fitness journey during the past year. You may or may not agree with this list, but I'm sharing it because these are the things I "nevah evah nevah" (as my toddler says) want to hear again.

With 8 pounds to go, I've heard a lot of "advice" from folks about how to lose weight. Usually, I just bite my tongue and plaster a smile on my face and say "I'll look into that." Truth is: I never do look into it. I'm doing this my way. I'm getting fit on my terms. If I want your advice I will ask for it (as I've done here on this blog). I'm doing this the old-fashioned way by eating healthy and exercising. Plain and simple. I know these comments come from a place of love -- the people I've heard these from mean well. It just comes out wrong and winds up bugging me.

So without further ado, here are the things I "nevah evah nevah" want to hear again about my loss of 45+ pounds:

"I'm on the cabbage soup/grapefruit/drinking-nothing-but-water-and-eating-nothing-but-almonds diet."
Reason I never want to hear it: I love food. I like to eat it. I want to eat things that are good for me, but every now and then I need a cupcake or something as a splurge so I don't fall completely off my healthy-eating wagon. That's just me.

Are you sure you can run that far/lift that much?
Reason I don't want to hear it: If I'm challenging myself to run farther or lift more, it's because my body is ready for it. I've been working on building up my strength and endurance during this last year. I talk with experts on a regular basis. I've gotten OKs from my doctor. I am being safe about challenging myself, but I know myself: I need to continually challenge myself to keep things interesting or I'll get bored and give up.

You were really big before you lost the weight, weren't you?
Reason I never want to hear it: Yes. Yes I was. But I don't need your reminding me since I constantly remind myself that I never want to go back to where I was health-wise a year ago. I wasn't as fit as I am now, and in another year I hope I'm even more fit than I am now. Instead of telling me how big I was, why not ask me what I'm doing for exercise or talk to me about my favorite healthy recipes? It's much more pleasant for me (and probably you since I won't get all angry and huffy at you).

Those are my big three. What are some of the comments people have said to you about losing weight that get on your nerves?

Staying fit is an important part of staying healthy. This blog will offer exercise tips from experts as well as share the personal journeys of Globe staff members committed to fitness. No matter your age or energy level, we invite you to join in and share your own story. How do you find time to work out? What are your daily challenges? Let us know and read along -- and together, we can all get moving.


Elizabeth Comeau is a social media marketing manager at She will be blogging about her personal fitness journey and using a device called a FitBit to track her weekly goals and progress (see below). Follow her journey and share your own. Read more about Elizabeth and this blog.

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