Typically, you wait until the event actually happens before you offer condolences. At least that’s what etiquette says. Offering condolences before a person actually passes (weird how we use the word “passed” rather than “died”) is definitely like putting the cart before the horse.
There’s an etiquette question: Is it more appropriate to say “passed” rather than “died” as in “My uncle passed last week.” Somehow using the word died has a harsh reality to it that “passed” avoids. Even so, I’m really not sure that one is better than the other. I think it depends on the individual and his or her comfort with the words.
There’s one silver lining in this black rain cloud for me: Kudos to Google for being up front about its plans. They’ve given us a year or more to prepare. But honestly, who prepares? Certainly I haven’t.
Well that’s not entirely true. I googled “alternative to iGoogle homepage” a few weeks ago. I even clicked on one or two alternatives. But nothing got me excited. So as is wont with all things Internet, when I wasn’t instantly satisfied, I blew the whole effort off and haven’t made any attempt to find an alternative since.
And now the end is fast approaching. And there really is absolutely nothing I can do to change the outcome except to say, “Thank you Google, for being my gateway to the Internet all these years. I’m sorry to see you go.”
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Since 2004, Peter Post has tackled readers' questions in The Boston Sunday Globe's weekly business etiquette advice column, Etiquette at Work. Post is the co-author of "The Etiquette Advantage in Business" and conducts business etiquette seminars across the country. In October 2003 his book "Essential Manners For Men" was released and quickly became a New York Times best seller. He is also the author of "Essential Manners for Couples," "Playing Through–A Guide to the Unwritten Rules of Golf," and co-author of "A Wedding Like No Other." Post is Emily Post's great-grandson. His media appearances include "CBS Sunday Morning," CBS's "The Early Show," NBC's "Today," ABC's "Good Morning America," and "Fox News."