... is online here. In Which Miss Conduct Reviews the Etiquette of Receiving Wine as a Host Gift:
If you are given wine at an event that you are hosting, you may serve it or keep it for your own consumption. If the guest has a plan for the wine, it's her responsibility to let you know, in a genteel fashion: "I know you're mad for malbec" implies that you should keep it for yourself, whereas "I found this Israeli red that goes fabulously with latkes" suggests community property for the Hanukkah party.
If you are serving dinner and are given a wine that doesn't complement the food, then compliment the wine itself and put it aside. "I've got something else to serve with the fish, but I've been wanting to try this!" (If you are at all unsure or fear giving offense, you can always ask, "Shall I open this?")
If you do keep the wine for yourself, make a note of who gave you what.
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