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Posted by Robin Abrahams  October 30, 2013 11:12 AM

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If I were a really clever costume designer, I'd figure out some way to dress as the ever-ballooning media controversy about sexy (or racist) Halloween costumes. Miz Clickbait, Dr. 24-Hour-News-Cycle. Or maybe just cut to the chase and go as a Sexy Racist. 

Amanda Marcotte has a sarcastic and profane and 100% correct take on the scolding hysteria around Sexy costumes:

Here's the thing that I can't get around: The urge to dress in risqué clothes and get admired is one that I have zero beef with. Sex is good. Admiration is good. Fun is good. The problem with Americans is we don't value these things enough, and are ready at the drop of a hat to shame and blame people for having a good time.
My kneejerk response is "But-but-but--" and then I realize I don't actually have that many objections. The mass-marketing of Sexy as the only costume option for women (and girls) is disgusting, but it's also never been easier, thanks to the internet, to come up with dozens of inexpensive homemade costumes in whatever style you prefer: funny, scary, beautiful, or even sexy (not Sexy).

I gave some tips last year that still hold up pretty well:

1. Dress venue-appropriate. The office is not a nightclub. Costumes should provide the same amount of coverage that an ordinary outfit would. Oh, all right--10% less coverage and that's it. No Playboy Bunny suits at work, no Borat budgie-smugglers anywhere at anything but the most libertine of adult parties.
Also, consider the mood of your outfit. A kindergarten teacher shouldn't go as Magic Mike, but he shouldn't go as an extra from "The Walking Dead" either. Save the sex & violence for adult hours after work. If you're working with older people, sick people, very religious people, then keep your decorations and accessories focused on the harvest/pumpkins aspect of Halloween, not the death/morbidity aspect.

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