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Posted by Robin Abrahams  March 10, 2013 12:17 PM

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Today's column -- a 3-fer -- is online here.

And I also wrote a huge feature on etiquette for every stage of your career, from job interview to retirement party. Samples:

CAN I DRINK AT THE COMPANY PARTY? The secret to enjoying a company party is to give up any expectations attached to the word "party," like spontaneity and pleasure. Instead, pretend you're playing the role of Serious Businessperson on the Rise (while juggling bacon-wrapped scallops). You can have one drink--one! Eat and drink only that which will not disagree with you intestinally and which can be consumed gracefully.


Don't do it. It won't be good for you, your friend, or anyone else, up to and possibly including the company's stockholders. If a friend's qualifications are empirically wrong, be upfront: "They want someone with a master's for the job, and they won't budge." If it's a more subjective thing, talk about "fit" and "expectations" until your buddy moves on.

Got career questions of your own? Send them in! Also, I'll be on WGBH 89.7s "Boston Public Radio" with Jim and Margery Monday at 1:30, talking career etiquette and taking questions. Join us!

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Welcome to Miss Conduct’s blog, a place where the popular Boston Globe Magazine columnist Robin Abrahams and her readers share etiquette tips, unravel social conundrums, and gossip about social behavior in pop culture and the news. Have a question of your own? Ask Robin using this form or by emailing her at

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Robin Abrahamswrites the weekly "Miss Conduct" column for The Boston Globe Magazine and is the author of Miss Conduct's Mind over Manners. Robin has a PhD in psychology from Boston University and also works as a research associate at Harvard Business School. Her column is informed by her experience as a theater publicist, organizational-change communications manager, editor, stand-up comedian, and professor of psychology and English. She lives in Cambridge with her husband Marc Abrahams, the founder of the Ig Nobel Prizes, and their socially challenged but charismatic dog, Milo.

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