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Posted by Robin Abrahams  March 29, 2013 07:37 PM

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Who else saw the clip of President Obama saying "That's some good matzoh" in his recent trip to Israel (here on "The Daily Show")? It was a rare Michael Scott moment for a usually suave and authentic man. Just, no, Mr. President honey. We don't compliment the matzoh. Sheesh. It's called "the bread of affliction" for a reason. 

But of course, what do you say about the matzoh if you're not Jewish? You can't complain about the matzoh. It's not yours to complain about. 

It looks funny, from the outside, the way Jews complain about the matzoh, or about fasting on Yom Kippur. Why have so many holidays you don't enjoy? Crazy, right? No wonder we invented psychoanalysis. 

But after writing an advice column for eight years now, I see the brilliance of it. Holidays make people miserable. So you just kind of bake a little misery into a few of them. Good. Now we all know what to do with the inevitable unhappiness that accompanies the joy. 

No matter how much we love our families and friends, our homes and our churches or temples, our stories and our traditions, food and presents and parties, a holiday takes it out of a person. Everything becomes more intense: family dynamics, economic tensions, time pressures. And sometimes holidays come when you're fighting some private battle of your own, from a dissertation to a loved one's illness to an addiction, and you just don't feel like celebrating. 

Times like that, it's really nice to be able to bitch about the matzoh.

It's there, it's square, I'm used to it.
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