... is online here. The first question:
My oldest sister has had many alcohol-related health problems, made worse by self-neglect. She was recently hospitalized, and family and friends seemed determined to hear me say it?s all because of her drinking, saying things like "This should be a wake-up call" or "Do you think it's because of her drinking" I am livid. I wish I had a good comeback.
... was a difficult one for me, and I wound up discussing it extensively with friends before writing a response. Initially, the logic-logic of the situation overwhelmed me ("How can you get mad at people for saying it's because of her drinking when it IS because of her drinking?") and I wasn't hearing the emotional logic running beneath it.
I'm currently re-watching "Star Trek: Deep Space 9" in the evenings, while I do my physical therapy exercises. All the "Star Trek" series--of which this is the unacknowledged best, in my opinion--emphasize that no matter how book-smart, how strong, how brave, how wise, how good-hearted we may be, each of us is incomplete on our own. We need our friends and colleagues to give us the perspective and skills that we lack.
Thank you, friends, always. See you at Quark's.
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