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Monday question: You've been skunk'd!

Posted by Robin Abrahams  October 4, 2010 05:29 AM

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And sometimes a question comes in that just leaves me saying, "Okay then."

We live in a beautiful old seaport city. As such, homes, sheds and trash barrels are closely situated. Not surprisingly, skunks are a common part of our life here. Though lately, skunk spray has been more frequent and fervent. As in dinner guests gasp and say, "Oh my God, that smell!" Hence the problem: we have neighbors that feel bad for skunks and feed them regularly. We were at a recent dinner with these skunk-feeding neighbors, and when an objection was voiced as to feeding the skunks, the skunk-feeders responded: "If you don't like it, move." What is the most graceful way to tackle this problem going forward?

Okay then. What do you think, dear readers?

I'll get your comments on last Monday's question later today or tomorrow--as I'd feared, the Ig Nobel activities ate most of last week, or perhaps it was most of my brain. Thanks for your patience.

I'll post my advice and response to your comments on Friday--and don't forget, we have a live chat this Wednesday from noon-1 right here. 

And one other housekeeping note: my deadline for columns is four weeks in advance. So if you are anticipating any social dilemmas over the Thanksgiving-to-New Year's season--and who among us is not--get them in to me now.
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Robin Abrahamswrites the weekly "Miss Conduct" column for The Boston Globe Magazine and is the author of Miss Conduct's Mind over Manners. Robin has a PhD in psychology from Boston University and also works as a research associate at Harvard Business School. Her column is informed by her experience as a theater publicist, organizational-change communications manager, editor, stand-up comedian, and professor of psychology and English. She lives in Cambridge with her husband Marc Abrahams, the founder of the Ig Nobel Prizes, and their socially challenged but charismatic dog, Milo.

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